Hitch it Up, Honey!

Barbie: Fashion Icon or Force Against Modesty?

Turn on the TV.  Take a stroll in the store.  Go to church and you’ll see it:  Females dressing as though the new fad is straight “hooker.”  That may be a little crass, but seriously, when you pick up a magazine or just try to watch the news, you’re bombarded with an obscene amount of skin.  Sex sells, so they say.  And “they” be right.  The only thing that has even a smidge of marketability the way a barely clothed woman will is a puppy.

And puppies don’t wear any clothes.

You can’t even trust commercials for fast food, for crying out loud.  I refuse to darken the drive-thru of a Hardee’s® for its porno-promos.  Western society bases the vast majority of craving upon “eye candy.”  It doesn’t matter that magazines rely upon skilled computer graphics for brushing and touch ups.  It doesn’t even matter that the average woman is a size 12 or 14.  No one wants to see a “fluffy,” realistic woman.  We’re all Barbie™ girls in a Barbie’s™ world, now.  (Speaking of which, here’s a fun fact: If Barbie was an actual person, her dimensions would be a 42D chest, an 18-inch waist and 32-inch hips.)  No wonder we call Hollywood socialites “plastic”.  When I take my little girl through the toy aisle, there only a few Barbie™ dolls that are even appropriately dressed!  Ken, watch out Barbie’s™ on the prowl again…

 What’s all this about?!  Why do I want my seven year-old child playing with a doll who looks like she just stepped off 5th and Vine?

Here’s a bigger problem: the sense of immodesty has quietly crept into our churches.  I remember my mouth falling open when I watched a family take the platform at church.  Their daughter, about sixteen at the time, was wearing jeans that wouldn’t hide her Strawberry Shortcake™ UnderRoos if she turned in the wrong direction.  This wasn’t a family who didn’t know any different.  This was a family who had been in the church for generations.  Even women come in dressed as though they are hitting Club 56, rather than stepping into a house of worship.

You know, you don’t have to wear a burqa, but would it kill ya’ to wear a tank top under that peep show?! And just because you think you have nice legs at your age, doesn’t mean that I need to see your middle-aged thighs.  Hitch it up, honey!

Please don’t misunderstand, as long as one is fully clothed, I don’t think it matters what you wear into a church.  But there are two underlying issues at play here: dignity and respect.  First, if a woman feels the need or desire to wear revealing clothing, she clearly has a self-esteem issue.  Why does she feel the need to draw us in with her “assets?”  Is there a personality or self-esteem deficiency?  Secondly, the respect issue is two-fold.  She doesn’t respect herself enough (as stated before) and she, obviously, doesn’t respect me or my spouse.  The only body that my husband’s eyes need to be focused upon is mine.  I trust that he isn’t out searching for a little eye-candy, but, neither do I want him to be fed to the wolves!  (He is human, after all.) If I had sons, I’m sure it would be a temptation to tie a blind-fold upon his innocent eyes for over half of his life!  If a woman respects another woman, then she respects the men in her life, too.  She doesn’t dress provocatively in order to catch an eye.

I have no doubt that someone reading this will wonder if I have a self-esteem complex.  Let me be clear.  No.  Sure, I, like 99.9% of Westernized women would like to change one or more aspects of my outer appearance, but the bigger issue is that I have my own little women to raise.  And I have a husband whose character and integrity are important to me.  And I will fight, tooth and nail, for it.

Everywhere you turn, there are commercials selling hamburgers with sexual innuendo and reality shows about midget Jello® wrestling, or whatever the fetish of the day might be.  The flood of obscene advertisements and garbage on TV, billboards, and in everyday life is a constant battle for the male species.  The pornography industry is a multi-billion dollar commodity.  Sex-addiction is one of the fastest rising (and most hidden) addictions that entangle society today.  To think that a scantily clad woman doesn’t play into a potential addict is foolish and naive.  I certainly would not want my mode of dress to be even a shadow of reason for trouble in another’s relationship.

So I’m fighting for modesty.  I fight for creativity and individuality in dress and style, but modesty is the icing on the cake.  I have no wish to look like Laura Ingalls, but Pamela Anderson isn’t the picture of respect and dignity either.

I like me.

Inside and outside.

I want others to know more about who I am rather than what I can artificially flaunt.

  1. Dave K
    November 6, 2010 at 1:49 pm

    “Here’s a bigger problem: the sense of immodesty has quietly crept into our churches.”

    This is something I’ve been noticing more and more recently and have commented on it a few times to others.

    As an example, in the Pre-K class that I help with at church, we had a teenage helper a few weeks ago who was wearing a mini skirt that looked as if it weren’t much larger than a napkin and I’ve had others in there who couldn’t have showed a whole lot more cleavage if they were wearing a bikini.

    As a man, this bothers me on at least two levels…One, I don’t want to be tempted in ways, especially by the younger ladies, that I shouldn’t have to deal with at church. Two, as a father, I have to wonder what the heck these girl’s dads are doing. Are they not noticing what their girls are wearing or do they just not want to have to deal with saying no?

  2. Order in the Quart!
    November 6, 2010 at 5:07 pm


    I couldn’t agree more. It’s deeply disturbing to me that parents in the church take such blaize stance. Think about adolescent boys! They are just learning what attraction is all about and haven’t the spiritual level of maturity in knowing how to fully combat these temptations that are forced in front of their faces. Its so frustrating. I didn’t even go into the likes of Miley Cyrus. Ugh, don’t get me started there. Before she even dove straight into the soft porn business, I wasn’t comfortable with my daughter watching or buying her products.
    Thanks for weighing in on this.

  3. November 13, 2010 at 1:18 pm

    What’s disturbing, too, is that many women insist that it’s the MAN’S fault for looking and it’s HIS problem if he “has thoughts”.

    Just like PMS is a hormonal issue for women, the fact that men “look” and “have thoughts” is a hormonal issue for men. Why not accept the differences between men and women…and RESPECT the differences? Instead, the “I am woman hear me roar” mentality has crept into our churches.

    Like Dave, I wonder where the dad’s are in all of this. I included this thought from Ali in my book (“Dressing with Dignity”). Ali explained dignified dress to his daughters this way:

    “Everything that God made valuable in the world covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down and in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get them. Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

    If only more fathers (and mothers!) taught their children that our body’s are so special that they are NOT meant for public consumption.

    • Order in the Quart!
      November 14, 2010 at 6:08 am

      Thank you for your insight, Colleen! I never thought about the hormonal component as compared with a woman’s hormones! I absolutely agree with you, too, it’s maddening that some women scream that they like how they look, bare and all, and then SCREAM about how women are just sex objects! I also very much appreciate your linkage to the responsibilty of parents in telling our children about how God made our bodies special and that we don’t just share it with everyone.

      Thanks for visiting!! God bless you and your passion!

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